It is thought that the ability to speak depends on the number of words in one’s vocabulary. And yet, when it comes to expressing oneself, most of the terms get hardly retrieved at once. Interestingly, in a reading text these words are likely to be easily recognised and may seem entirely clear. Were the speaking to do with just vocabulary, everyone would learn a dictionary by heart. However, in actual fact, effortless speaking is based on psychological factors such as self-reliance, self-esteem and confidence in one’s abilities.
Have you noticed that sometimes you speak more smoothly, and other times you get stuck all the time in the search for the right word? That is due to your phycological state. The nature of the relationship you have with a person you talk to defines how you feel and eventually how well you speak. If the interlocuter makes you feel lower, unable, inadequate or manifests their omniscience and predominance, then what you are likely to experience is isolation and the desire to dismiss from the conversation. Furthermore, when you speak awaiting being judged for making mistakes, paradoxically you make them even more and people pick up on them to a larger extent than when you speak confidently.
As long as you are not a proficient English speaker, it is advisable to interact with anyone you feel comfortable with, anyone who speaks at your speed rate, uses a comprehensible word range, is legible and nonjudgmental.
The feelings of calmness, comfort and positivity are going to relieve anxiety and provide confidence to face the conversation. As a result, an agreeable interaction will foster you to have another talk. Evidentially, after a series of such conversations, your English skills will inevitably look up, allowing for a confident dialogue even in a more unfamiliar setting.
That being said, the right partner in the conversation determines relationship with a new language, at least at the beginning, until you get the hang of it and obtain confidence in your abilities. For this reason, you had better start practising with a friendly interlocutor who would be able to help you obtain necessary self-confidence before finding yourself in a stressful situation. There are three defining conditions to observe:
- You should like a person you talk to, be willing to share stories from your life with them, and be curious about your interlocutor’s life as well.
- Your “friend” ought to use comprehensible and accessible word range as well as be legible.
- You’re supposed to hear from the “friend” regularly.
Regular daily conversations with a trustworthy person will enable you to acquire calmness needed to be in harmony with English and eventually overcome the language barrier, which will be a basis for further mastering by finding yourself in a more spontaneous situations with all kind of people.
